Can women have sex like men?

I could approach this a few different angles but leave it to my Best-Friend to put it in Our perspective: Can men have sex like women? Of course, this is taking it to the stereotype where men are emotionally detached and women have sex with feelings attached. Well, I have been both types.

Under the influence of alcohol anything can happen. And has. A couple times. This is where men are just after one thing: the next best-get-off. But when a guy cares for someone, it slows down. And then after time, yes, men can emotionally allow themselves to feel something, something that makes sex special. And maybe even with a bit of meaning. Something special is created. So why don’t be take a small pause, think about what we’re doing and who we’re doing, and ask ourselves: why am I doing this? For immediate satisfaction or to do get to know this person on a more intimate level? Each case is different. And there are many other reasons people can come up with to justify having sex with someone. So it is a matter of emotion in the act of sex rather than just an act without a feeling.

Men are programmed to think with lower half of their body rather than their brains. An animal instinct takes over in many encounters: gay or straight. We are out for the hunt. Over the years when I would go out, my body would switch on a button and I would feel like getting a guy to go home with me was the goal; which I would equate to validation and “getting a guy.” Add a few cocktails to the equation and the drive is magnified. Luckily for gay guys, a fair amount of us all have the same objective. The result: shooting fish in a barrel.

Like I said, I have done both: the tawdry one-night-stands that lead to nothing. And I have a waited to sleep with a guy after a few dates, even weeks. I must say the latter is so much better. There is a subtle anticipation and excitement when you don’t jump into bed with someone. I do get excited but I also get nervous. Sex can change things. But usually, it just makes it better. I think I have reached point in my life where I would rather have the emotional development and the physical an extension of that, than the frivolous encounter with a somebody…that I will never see again.